Want More Rules To Live By? Anna Zabo Talks Being Bi and CTRL Me (guest post and contest)

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Anna Zabo on CTRL Me and bisexuality…

I’ve been thinking a lot about the rainbow flag recently, partly because I’ve been thinking quite a bit about my bisexuality and how there are times I feel very queer and times I feel like I do not belong because I have dated men far far far more than I’ve dated women. But I am queer and I do belong to that rainbow.

All this was probably rolling around my noggin when I started working on CTRL Me.

I knew, pretty much from the start that Tom was bi. I also knew he’d just ended a relationship that had gone unexpectedly sour because Tom was bi, partly because his ex actually assumed he was gay.

Because there is this assumption that bi people are actually either straight or gay. That bisexuality is always some kind of transit between discovering you’re one or the other.

However, there’s also the stigma in vilifying the ex-girlfriend in m/m. Which…I kind of did. So, I compensated by giving poor Tom a spectacularly bad ex-boyfriend as well.

Honestly, both men and women can be jerks. Turns out, Tom’s lousy at picking people to date. Horrible. He wants to trust so badly.

Luckily, this time it was Gabe who did the picking. And Gabe doesn’t mind that Tom’s dated and loved (mentally and physically) both men women in the past, because he has too. So he gets it. It’s a non-issue, as it should be.

He’s also very into trust, which is also as it should be.




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  • A lesson in humility.

In The Harder They Fall by Heidi Belleau and Lisa Henry, spoiled college boy Tad hires a prostitute, but “Daddy” couldn’t care less about what Tad wants. Instead, he’s going to give his spoiled little boy exactly what he deserves.

  • A cage that means freedom.

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  • A spool of rope and a desire to be bound.

In CTRL Me by Anna Zabo, a night out between friends turns hot and tempting when Gabe deliberately pushes Tom’s submissive buttons. Then Tom discovers rope in Gabe’s glove box—and not the type for securing luggage.

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By Scattered Thoughts

At over 50, I am ruled by my terriers, my gardens, and my projects. A knack for grubbing about in the woods, making mud pies, and tending to the injured worms, bugs, and occasional bird and turtle growing up eventually led me to working for the Parks. I was a park Naturalist for over 20 years, and observing Nature and her cycles still occupy my hours. From the arrival of Ruby-throated Hummingbirds in the Spring to the first call of the Snow Geese heading south in the Fall, I am entranced by the seasons. For more about me see my bio on my blog.


  1. Huh…I don’t understand why who people have dated makes a difference. I would think if you are honest with your partner at the get go there would be no problems. But what do I know. Great post thanks



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